Do Not Believe Everything You Read, See or Hear

More times than not we are bombarded with a lot of expressions in music and songs around us that bear witness to the mind and the thinking of the song writers. I cannot help but remember one of the songs sung by Mariah Carey.

It says, “I can’t live if living is without you.” Now set to music, it becomes a very powerful witness if you will to how we can become quite codependent in this society, how easily these songs can tell us that being codependent or feeling very dependent on someone else for our existence, or turning to someone to validate our existence, is quite normal because we hear it all the time on radio. Millions of people are listening to it, so it must be okay. But it is not okay.

These geniuses who write the songs may have a lot of psychological problems but we don’t see that. What they are expressing in their songs may be the way for them to vent their feelings. So they are talking about their thoughts and their thoughts are not all that clear. Sometimes they are searching for love in all the wrong places.

Have you heard that before? So where would the ‘right’ place be to search for love? If I fall in love the next time, it will be forever. What were you trying to fall in love with before? How were you intending to do that? Only part of the way? Intention is everything as well. Now in Hollywood, stories are written and sold for large sums of money. But what would sell? Fantasy.
During the Great Depression in the US, one industry that was booming other than the food industry was the film industry. People were so caught up with their pain and the realities of the Depression that they needed a good fantasy to lose themselves in for a couple of hours. That’s exactly what we are doing now as well. If we spend a lot of time watching television, you are subjecting yourself to the creative talents of all the writers there. Take a look at James Cameron’s wonderful story, “The Titanic”.

Compare that plot to his life and who he was trying to build a long lasting relationship with. It is very difficult if you take a look at the actors and the writers, you will find that they are still searching for self. They are searching for permanence in relationships which they find very difficult to live out in real life. So what do they do? They write it out. They out it in their stories.

We buy these stories, hook, line and sinker, believing that that is what love is like. The hero sweeping the damsel in distress off her feet and taking her off into the sunset. They will make passionate love together even while the ship is sinking. So who are you going to cling to as your ship sinks. So walking in the sunset, most people don’t realise, implies that it is going to be dark pretty soon and the harsh realities of that unknown darkness are yet to come to the fore. Or you may be thinking right now, “Frankly Scarlett, I don’t give a damn!”